“Self-care is not selfish or self-indulgent.  We cannot nurture others from a dry well.  We need to take care of our own needs first, so that we can give from our surplus, our abundance.  When we nurture ourselves from a place of fullness, we feel renewed instead of taken advantage of”. 

– Jennifer Louden

It is not unusual for people to have reservations about self-compassion. Common reservations often expressed include, “it sounds like a form of self-pity”, “it is weak”, “it is selfish and self-indulgent”, it is a form of making excuses” and “it may undermine my motivation”.

The great news is there is robust and growing research which evidences quite the opposite!

Research has demonstrated that self-compassionate people are more likely to have:

  • enhanced emotional wellbeing.
  • reduced stress levels
  • lower levels of anxiety and depression
  • increased confidence
  • improved life satisfaction

Self-compassionate people have also been shown to:

  • engage in healthy self-care behaviours (eg eating well, increasing exercise, drinking less alcohol)
  • be more caring in their relationships with others.
  • be more able to collaborate and compromise, leading to more satisfying personal relationships.
  • Be better able to cope with life challenges.

The Power of Self Compassion, Kristin Neff:

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“Feeling compassion for ourselves in no way releases us from responsibility for our actions. Rather, it releases us from the self-hatred that prevents us from responding to our life with clarity and balance.”

– Tara Brach